“Taking swift strides into the classroom, the teacher quickly sets the huge stack of graded midterms on the desk. THUD! The sound of paper making contact with the table, brings everyone’s attention to the front of the classroom. There the teacher stands, towering over them. The boy stares at the teacher across the room. Just stares. His brain draws a blank and he feels as if his heart is in his hand. Yet, the boy can still feel his pulse beating in his ears, so loud that it’s blocking out the noise of everything else around him. It’s like a swarm of canons are being shot into his chest. Nothing can compare to the feeling of failure. Nothing."
Atychiphobia is the fear of failure (FOF).
(Try saying that 3x as fast)
And failure itself is rather an elusive thing that we all struggle with, including me. The fear of failing can be immobilizing – it can cause us to do nothing, and therefore resist moving forward or moving at all. But, i still have this fear that I’ll fail and flop face front in front of millions of people. But, we all have this fear of failing because that’s what makes us human. I am not perfect, but who is?
We’re allowed to make really stupid, dumb, and annoying mistakes, but learning from them is what’s most important. It is when we allow fear to stop our forward progress in life that we're likely to miss some great opportunities along the way. And now that midterm season is finally over and all grades are now finalized, there's no need to dwell on thw fact thay you didn't do as well as you wanted to, we must learn to move on and grow from these experiences. So...Here. Are A. Few. Tips. To slay the rest of the school year.
How to beat FOF
1. Feel the fear
....repeat after me “there’s nothing wrong with being afraid to mess up or fail.” Feel your heart pounding in your chest and be human. ITS OK to mess up.
2. Ask yourself “what is the worst thing that could happen”
...you could fail out of your current school and have to enroll into another high school/college/or university. But you’d go to another school and try again. You’d move on. You’d live. And when we look at things realistically our greatest accomplishment is getting through each day! And I truly believe that if we put in the work anything is possible. And sometimes things wont turn out the way you want it to, but it’ll all be for the best.
3. Be in the moment
...fear of failure (and other similar fears) are fears of the future. We get caught up in worrying about what might happen. Instead banish all the thoughts about the future from your brain. It’s all about the now. What little thing can you do NOW that will move you in the right direction.
Tips to continue being motivated the rest of this school year
1. Be honest about how you’ve done so far
...there are a few things that we have all done WRONG. We have made mistakes and have had poor judgment during this school year. We have all decided to procrastinate A LOT and the consequences of those decisions can be seen in our performance, or maybe that’s just me. But being able to see your choices, decisions, school year performance, and social life for what they are allows you to move forward and know what NOT to do.
2.Stop running your mouth and start running the game
...what i mean by this is stop procrastinating. Stop wasting time on the unnecessary things. For example, are you spending too much time planning and watching YouTube videos? Find a way to manage your time in such a way that you get all your tasks done before indulging in YouTube or Netflix. When you put in a little more work then you can truly begin to run the game and be a SCHOLAR! Remember you should strive to work smarter not harder.
3.Be happy and accepting
....of where you are at all times in order to be able to do better with whatever you are trying to accomplish. When we learn to accept the things we aren’t able to do and accept where we’re at personally, mentally, physically, and scholastically it makes it so much easier to work with what we have, rather than resist the natural flow of things. We can then reflect on where we would like to be instead of resisting what we are currently doing.
My social studies teacher, when she was handing our midterms back, said, “you can’t cry over spilled milk.” And these words just stuck with me. Because what’s done is done. All we can do is move on and try again but with better tactics.
4.Prepare yourself for battle
...what i mean by this is when you’re going to take on an adversary, you must prepare yourself. Your adversary is the next half of this year/semester. You must arm yourself, train yourself, and have a battle plan. Set yourself up for success and practice..practice..practice..to effectively execute your plan. Wether it be to dedicate a few minutes each day for doing practice questions for a specific subject DO IT and you will reap the rewards when you ace that final or that semester.
5.You don’t have to do this alone
...you heard me. This isn’t a duel it’s a battle. You can ask for help from a friend, make a study routine together, and make sure you stick to it. Another way to continue being motivated with the help of others is through this crazy thing called the internet. Read blogposts, watch YouTubers, listen to podcasts, and don’t feel alone in your struggles because you’re not alone! There is always someone else out there trying to turn their lives, wether at school or at home, around. (I’ve actually been loving study with me’s. The really long ones. At first i thought they were creepy, but now that I know how to use them as i do my own assignments, I find it extremely helpful to have someone else, wether it be millions of miles away, hold me accountable for doing work. It’s like if they’re doing it then I have to as well.)
Here are 8 motivational youtubers...ENJOY
Jam-packed with healthy living, positivity, and various lifestyle videos, Kayln Nicholson isn’t your average beauty-centric vlogger she talks about mental health, stress, goal setting, and more.
She is teaching and inspiring others to ignite that burning spark everyone has inside of them that can ignite a whole world of possibilities. And helping others live up to your fullest potential physically and mentally and feel/look beautiful & confident inside & out.
3. Hannah Ashton
Hannah Ashton inspires young women and helps other student entrepreneurs to achieve their dreams and life goals no matter their age or limitations!
4. Sam Ozkural
Sam’s Youtube channel is a place for all things health and wellness! Creating easy to follow guides to help you achieve all of your goals!
She is an Australian YouTuber who makes videos about organization & motivation. Her videos include self motivation, work motivation, organization, home organization, self organisation, work organization, office organization.
6. The Strive Studies
Check out this channel for some real-time study with me videos! And check out her main channel...TheStrivetoFit..Follow her on my journey through school & fitness!
7. Rowena Tsai
Rowena started her channel June of 2016 in hopes of encouraging her peers to take an honest and sober look at their lives to see if they're living the life they proactively choose to live. And if they're not, to find the courage to do something about it.
This channel is for anyone that's on a self growth journey to live a more intentional life.
So I have finally decided that I’ve been rambling for long enough. This was a great way for me to give you a bit of advice from my own personal experiences and hopefully motivate you to keep going, try harder, and get what you want. It’s all about perspective. When we eradicate that fear, we can move forward to do greater and bigger things. Those things we might have otherwise perceived as IMPOSSIBLE. So go do you girl! And slay the end of this school year!
Once again, thank you for reading this lengthy blog post. Be sure to comment what you got out of this? Have you been in a funk lately? Has something not turn out the way you planned it to? Comment your thoughts on FOF down below!
Until then...I'll be...
Always smiling and beyoutiful,