Because when you cant find the sunshine you have to be the sunshine
Two weeks ago if I were to answer the above frankly, I would have probably said that I had been trying really hard to get out of a rut. An emotionally draining black hole that was filling my brain with negative thoughts. I felt burnt out, tired, unmotivated..and I didn't feel like doing anything. And I was wondering how I got to that point? What did I do wrong? I studied and worked hard, but I didn't feel proud of my work?
Everything felt so insignificant up until that point? Everything's going to take a turn for the worse, so why try at all I would say to myself?
This week however, is something NEW. The fact that it's finally winter break has brought me relief. The slowly drawing winter cloud has given way for the spring sunshine (even though it's still freezing cold and technically not spring), which has ultimately lifted my spirits. I am filled with the hope of new horizons.....and I now realize that it was all about my perspective. When I let my outside surroundings affect what was happening in my mind, all my negative feelings manifested into me painting a dull light on life. I began to feel less motivated and more sluggish, all of which resulted into a decrease in all aspects of my performance. But...now that I see the internal sunshine, I am able to let myself be happy. I feel more motivated and am ready to conquer anything that comes my way.
This process of change has led me to realize that what we choose to focus on feeds the way we physically show up in the world. And could this mean when I focus on believing things are wrong, more things might start feeling wrong? And if I focus on believe things are right, then will everything start feeling right?
If I can change my thoughts, could I change the quality at which I enjoy my life ? I know it has taken me a while to figure this out, but every flower has its time to bloom am I right?
During this "dig yourself out of a rut" period there are 6 things I have learned to do that have altered my mindset on life completely. And hopefully will help you out whenever you feel like you're in a rut and can't get out.
6 lessons i learned
•Know your worth
• I dont know how much I can stress the importance of understanding that you are NOT who you surround yourself with, or what you've achieved, while they are a big part of your life, they don't determine who you are as a person. YOU decide your own worth! AND being able to filter out the negative things in your brain or what others may say about you and the truth that you are an amazing being were what helped pull me out of that rut I felt stuck in.
• Reframe your fears
• The more scared we are of a type of work or calling the more sure we are that we have to do it. If you want to move mountains or change the world fear will always be here for the ride, we must simply use that fear to fuel our motivation. I was scared of never being able to pull myself out of the rut I told you about, but this fear was exactly why I needed to do just that. I needed to prove myself wrong and show myself that I could do whatever I was afraid of and you can too.
• Be mindful of your thoughts
• You are not your thoughts or those things that are constantly pestering you internally. Many times we find ourselves worrying about trivial things like: what will I get on this test? Did I fail? Why is my bf or gf following so and so on Instagram? Are my friends going to talk behind my back? Am I doing this right? Will things ever turn out right? What if I'm wrong? Most of those nagging thoughts in our brain are about inconsequential aspects of our lives. So why are we worrying about the things we can't change, like the past? Or thinking ahead and having negative feelings toward the future? Instead we need to stay present and think about the now! What little things can you do that will guide you to where you want to be?
• Work your little butt off
• Greatness is not as much about talent or skill, but about the amount of work you are willing to put in. So this semester I'm challenging myself to work harder, smarter, and better than I have ever done throughout my academic career. And I challenge you to do the same! When we can allow ourselves to be motivated at all times regardless of what is happening around us, greatness will always await.
• Dance to the beat of your own music
• Don't dance to other people's music. Even when everyone else may be doing the same thing, this does not mean you have to do that as well. What moves or motivates someone does not dictate what motivates or moves you. Just like we all have a distinct taste in music, so too do we have different muses. Find it and channel it whenever you see fit! When one of your friends is having the time of their lives and is succeeding academically, socially and athletically don't let that bring you down. All this is, is a reminder that it's not your time to shine yet. There are millions of stars in this galaxy, and different parts of this earth have different time zones, meaning that all the stars don't shine at one given time. So let others be, your time to shine, although it's not here right now, will come sooner or later. And when that time comes you will be a shooting star!
• Trust the process
• Have patience in life. Things may not turn out the way you want them to and that should not dictate your happiness. Life is not a defined set of circumstances that we can predict or manufacture ourselves. When you trust this sporadic way of existence, you can learn and grow into a better person and keep your happiness as constant as you are willing yourself for it to be.
Honestly leaving the comments wide open to your discretion. Motivation is rather strange isn't it? It's a nice reminder that we aren't robots. So...what are your thoughts? Any tips you want to share with others? Comment it all below!
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